My immediate answer is “I wish”. I really do. Think about it – how easy it would be if all we needed is to set a goal, write it down (to make sure we will not change it often, based on circumstances) and let the universe take care of it, right?
My Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) teacher did believe that it was enough. She said, “If you really, really want it, it will happen”, but I ask you, “How do you know if you really, really want something? When does your desire become ‘real’?”
When I want something, I can swear I really want it.
You see, some people set goals and do not achieve them, at least for a while, so they accept defeat by saying “Maybe I didn’t ‘really’ want this goal”.
I believe that desire is a crucial part of reaching goals. Certainly, it is the starting point of every goal. But I do not think there is a way for us to measure how much we want something. When I work with a client, I cannot say “This is a 20-desire goal and that one is a 72”.
Every person knows their insides best. When you set a goal, notice how you feel about it. Are you a bit anxious about it, or is there nothing but burning desire to be done with it, reach your destination and enjoy your success?
I have tried the wanting game and I think that some of the things happened in my life just because I wanted them. I remember having a feeling that the universe was listening to me when I dreamed of things. I still love this game and I believe we should all play it as often as we can.
Why? Because sometimes it works, it feels great and it is cheap and simple.
But I am a person of action. I believe in motion as the ultimate way to growth and I that action speaks louder than words. While the universe is taking care of some of your goals, just because you wanted them, your actions will help you with the rest. When you set a goal and wait for an external source to fulfil it, you fail to help yourself and miss the opportunity to grow.
What you think when good things happen to you when you did nothing to achieve them – “It was luck”. What do you think when you work towards something and you get it – “It was an achievement!”
If I had to choose between luck and achievement, I would choose achievement!
There are two types of action – physical and emotional. You can act to change the world around you – clean the house, arrange the office, get a new job or buy shares – but you can also change your inner world – eliminate negative beliefs, align your values, be grateful or forgive.
More often than not, inner action will be the key to getting your goals, removing any emotional obstacles in your path.
The Titanic had a powerful engine, big propellers, modern navigation equipment (for the time) and the finest structure in history, but it ran into an iceberg and sank. External-world movement can sometimes get you closer to your obstacles – fears, misconceptions, unfulfilled needs or bad habits.
Internal-world action will clear them from your path and keep you afloat all the way home.
Be happy,
Ronit
